![]() ![]() ![]() Of course, we’re only just scratching the surface here. In teaching her about oppression, be careful not to turn the oppressed into saints.Teach her to question our culture’s selective use of biology as ‘reasons’ for social norms.Be deliberate about how you engage with her and her appearance.Never speak of marriage as an achievement.Beware the danger of what I call Feminism Lite.Teach her that ‘gender roles’ is absolute nonsense.Sadly, the reality in most marriages is that the answer to that question would often be no, and the reason would be gender-based – that absurd idea of ‘men will be men.’”Īdichie proceeds to lay out her fifteen suggestions for how her friend should raise her child. ![]() If Chudi sleeps with another woman and you forgive him, would the same be true if you slept with another man? If the answer is yes then your choosing to forgive him can be a feminist choice because it is not shaped by a gender inequality. ![]() But I think staying can also be a feminist choice, depending on the context. “For example: many people believe that a woman’s feminist response to a husband’s infidelity should be to leave. The second is a question: “can you reverse X and get the same results?” Not ‘if only.’ Not ‘as long as.’ I matter equally. What is your premise? Your feminist premise should be: I matter. “The solid unbending belief that you start off with. The first of Adichie’s ‘Feminist Tools’ is one’s premise. ![]()
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